Female Domination or male Adulation?

I know that this blog is generally read by fans of Female Led Marriage (FLM) or Female Led Relationships (FLR). There is always a strong flavoring of Female Domination in these blogs and there is a strong flavoring of Female Domination in this blog as well. However, I must delineate that the Female Domination spoken of in this blog is primarily of a fantasy nature. Female Domination fantasy is a STRONG part of all of our lives. In fact it is a strong part of MOST mens' lives!

Don't we all Dream of Something Like this?
Obey or Be Whipped!!!

  A study done at the University of Kansas indicates that 97% of male respondents said that they have fantasized about being overpowered sexually by a female at least once. 97% to me means 100% with 3% lying. 

Basically ALL guys Dream about Female Domination, ALL of us!

 

That same study indicated that 66% of male respondents fantasized about Female Dominance over half of the time that they had sexual fantasies!

Most men Dream About Female Domination As Their Primary Sexual Fantasy - MOST MEN!!!!

So this study basically says that most men fantasize about women over powering them sexually most of the time! Yes, you are weird, you just are not alone in your weirdness!

Here is a link to the Hawley - Hensley study to which I referred:

http://patriciahawley.org/Publications/HawleyHensley_JSR_%202009.pdf

I have written a series of entries about the wide spread existence of male fantasy being of a Female Dominant nature. You will find them under “Reality The Road To Joy”. This series of entries talk about the prevalence of this desire, the fact that girls and women dream about it too and how you can try to make the JUMP from an unfulfilling fantasy life to actually becoming the domesticated servant of a real woman who will enjoy bossing you around as much as you will enjoy submitting to her and doing for her.

Start reading the Road To Joy Series here:
http://onbecomingasurrenderedhubby.blogspot.com/2014/07/reality-road-to-happiness-part-1.html

The difference is this is for real. This is not whips and chains. This is not having the ‘Perfect Bitch Goddess’ screaming at you and slapping your face all day while she inspects your housework. This is about opening your real life heart and soul to the loving guidance and direction of a woman who may herself just be discovering her own secret power and just beginning to accept that her own fantasy life is as legitimate as any other part of her existence.

Recently, Ms. Kathy replied to a post by saying that “Mostly, femdom is about the little things in life. It is not about whips and chains and bossing men around. It is about letting a man know who is the authority figure in his life, and training him to be all that he can be. Once you understand that men crave this type of leadership is makes being a woman so much more interesting.”

One Serious Looking husbie Training Session!

 

This is so true. And this Lady takes it from Her perspective about how to make it come about. I will attempt to write from my male perspective about how to bring it about from our side.

Other than in our dreams where we live as 24/7 doormats and whipping boys, life would not be so great to be an actual slave and be beaten into submission all the time. Nor would your Woman’s life be all that great if she had to micro manage everything to did and punish you without ceasing in order to get you to do it.

A far happier model that I have found is to live in anticipation of her every want and need. As a male, you must use your God given abilities to figure out what she might want before even she knows what it will be. “Hmm, the kitchen floor needs sweeping. OK I’ll sweep it now. The laundry is starting to pile up. So before Mistress needs some article of clothing I am going to wash it and fold it and put it away for her.” Face it, there will ALWAYS be little things that need to be done. Just hit the most important ones first and then continue on to make the whole package better for her.

This is how you can live out your life of service to her without her ever having to raise a finger. She will know that you are putting forth effort for her and deep inside she will feel your love and feel very satisfied by it.

Everyday Life As It Should Be!

Also ‘Female Dominance’ requires planning and energy from the female. If we truly live to serve our females they should not have to make sacrifices like that (unless they want to). Women should be free to come and go as they please and know that hubby is simply ‘taking care of everything’. I mean that is how royalty lives is it not? A real life Queen does not micro manage all those around her to insure that what she wants to be done gets done. She simply delegates authority and assumes it to be done correctly. To perform service for a lady so high is indeed an honor (and YOUR LADY IS that high!) and one needs to take the responsibility seriously! To fail repeatedly would mean to be removed from her service and that would be unthinkable!

Now this of course does not mean that a Lady might not organize a little ‘play time’ to punish or degrade her male servant. Yes there are women, more than you can imagine, who are sexually stimulated by sadistic fantasies of domination over their male counter parts. For them punishment can be her form of relaxation. As well as for him. (YES!!!!)

Next Time Clean The Bathroom BEFORE SHE GETS HOME!

“CRAWL ON YOUR BELLY, YOU DISGUSTING WORM!”

 

But most of the time, I think men want to serve and to please. While women want to be served and be pleased. So it is the man’s job to see to it that things are simply ‘taken care of’ for her as best he can. If we want to recognize in our Women that their truly Regal and Divine nature, then we need to be primarily anticipating there every need and not waiting to be directed.

In answer to Ms. Kathy’s statement: “A well run organization should have little need for external discipline. Because external discipline only needs be applied (as discipline and not as play time) when internal discipline is lacking.” I know for myself that I am constantly trying to think of little things that need to be done before they become an issue for her. Do the laundry. Clean the fridge. Mow the lawn. 

These are the everyday domestic chores that a surrendered hubby surrenders his time to accomplish.

For me to have these things done with a smile on my face without having been ‘asked’ to do them and seeing Her Ladyship relaxed and enjoying herself and thinking me (her little domestic servant) to be ‘quite the prize’ gives me a deep sense of satisfaction and pleasure in having served her well. 

Of course we must also constantly stretch ourselves before she sees a need for it as well. Do not allow yourself to get into a rut!

OK, you took care of the everyday cleaning. That’s nice. Now, when are you going to get around to painting the study or re-arranging all of our papers?”

Think ahead in order to follow well…

Ah Domestic Bliss!