In Part 1, I discussed the duality
of our lives as men seeking female domination. We have an active, some would
say obsessive fantasy life about being pushed around, used, abused, punished,
humiliated, and dominated. 99% of us would never really want to live like this and would be
mortified if anyone even found out that we dreamed about it in the first place.
Yet these dreams and fantasies drive
us onward in search of the one girl friend who will not only understand, but
will help us make it happen. Yet this rarely happens either and we are left sad
and frustrated.
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| Desire For And Fear Of Humiliation Often Drives Our Dreams. Half Of Me Says "What A Pussy!" Half Of Me Says "OH HOW I WOULD LOVE TO BE HIM!!!" |
We also see that maybe not as vividly
or in as much of a sexual fantasy perspective, women too are often yearning for
more control! They would LOVE to control their men! They would love to make us
more attentive and more docile. They would love to see us ‘behave’ in social
settings and not ‘embarrass’ them in front of their friends. They would love to have us show them more respect as intelligent individuals and capable leaders.
Many even fantasize about having a
sexy man listen to her, worship her as a goddess, buy her nice gifts, and do
all of her house work too! (YUM!)
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| True Happiness Comes From Understanding Yourself For BOTH Parties |
Yet women fear to move on these
fantasies on their own for two reasons as their boyfriend/husbands would laugh at them and
reject them as ‘crazy man haters’. (Well I WOULDN’T, and if she approached it
correctly I bet a lot of you wouldn’t either.) But this is her fear.
She will mention this fantasy and
generally erupt into paroxysms of silly laughter with almost any other woman
within hearing distance because “It could never come true! My husband would
never…” Basically it IS her fantasy, but she thinks it must always remain a
fantasy because it is ‘too good to be true’.
I’ve seen this happen a couple of
times and the result is always the same. I wonder what would happen if both my
wife and I were there. I mean she is not one who makes a habit of ‘outing me’ as her
servant, although there have been times when she has been so excited about
telling another woman that it ‘kind of slips out’. I get looked over and blush a bit, but then
it’s mostly forgotten. (I think)
My wife doesn’t but most of these
women live lives that are frustrating and unfulfilled just like the yearning
submissive male does.
The second reason is that she wants to be married to or dating 'a man'. Men are not grovelling little worms that live just to be bossed around or punished and 99% or more of women do not want to be around 'men' who do that let alone be tied to one for life.
I part 2, I talked about laying the
ground work from a male perspective to draw women closer to you. Learn from
women who have attracted men throughout the ages the tricks of making women
like you more and want to be around you. Dress well. Carry yourself with a
classy pride that is still approachable but maybe just a LITTLE bit out of her
league. Walk with purpose but never appear to be in a hurry. And finally LISTEN to her. Make
time to sit down and let her talk. WOMEN LOVE TO TALK!!! If you LOVE your
woman, learn how to listen to her and set aside time to do it regularly!
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| Want To PLEASE your Woman? ACTIVELY LISTEN TO HER!!!! |
Okay none of this should shake your
world if you have been reading along since the start but I think it lays a
solid foundation for a proper 'REAL WORLD' F/m relationship. You are HER little ‘pride and
joy’. You are HER “Cute Little Cup Cake”, yet you protect her, you respect her,
and you always leave her just a little bit hungry for more.
Now in this part I would like to
move us beyond that general attraction and into the realm of serving your woman
and helping to ease her in her new world of power. If you can make your life all about
honoring and glorifying her, she (unless she is a real sociopath) is going to
come around, LEARN to love it, and make your life as her male house wife a "Pussy Whipped Heaven on Earth"!
But let’s not get ahead of ourselves
here. If you go to her and drop down on your knees tonight without any
preliminaries and beg her to make you her wife and to use you as she sees fit,
guess what. You’re screwed. This is WAY too far too fast. She still wants to be
married to a man not a lunatic!
You have to EARN the right to serve
her and that takes time!
Start slowly. Start by doing one or
two more chores around the house than you usually do. If she asks you why you
are doing them, answer truthfully that you just wanted to help her out. Tell
her that you think she has been doing too much and that you want to balance
things out some. Most wives will be very happy with that answer.
Now if you are just dating, this can
be a little trickier. But you can still do it. Do a little chore or two around
her place (OH AND KEEP YOUR OWN PLACE NEAT AS A PIN PLEASE!!! She will visit
and having a neat comfortable place will put her at ease around you. Don’t
become Felix Unger and become a 'neat freak', but make sure that your own place is clean and inviting before she comes
over.)
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| Mommie's Got A New Dishwasher! Good Boy! |
Then when you are at her place, start
with something simple. Start with something you actually have some responsibility about, like cleaning any dishes or glasses the two of you
used. Take them to the washer or wash them yourself while she is out of the
room. “Oh just thought I’d clean up a little.” You would be surprised at how
impressed most girls will be with such a simple act.
So start slow. But don’t stop there.
Do your best to serve her in every aspect of your life. LISTEN to her tell you
about her work, about her sisters, about her cousins, about her hairdo. About
anything. If it animates HER, and you love her, it needs to animate you to some
extent.
If you can get her on board with
something like this it should not be all that hard to slowly move into doing
more and more. Oh there will be the regular ‘dude work’ expectations and you
need to do those or arrange to have them done. These are also a great way to ingratiate yourself to her! Any dude work that needs to be done at her place is work you need to volunteer to do and quickly! "Oh I noticed when we drove in that your bushes need to be trimmed. Would you like me to come by tomorrow and take care of that for you?" - Do that and you are suddenly on her 'good list'.
Then you can (and should) move slowly move into
doing the laundry, sweeping her floors, vacuuming, and even GASP dusting her
place! There is something very subordinate and even feminine about dusting. So
don’t push it on this one. But I have also been told that there is something
‘Really sexy about a man doing house work and especially about a real man
dusting your house.’ I remember the first time I did it and Her Royal Highness
just sat back and watched. She watched the whole process from start to finish.
Then in her own way, she let me know that she was VERY happy with me…
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| She REALLY ENJOYS Having A Boyfriend Do the House Work For Her! |
Your results of course may vary.
By this time if you are doing half
of the housework or more, you should know if this will work out for you two.
Some women are still squeamish about having a man do this “woman’s work” and it
may not work out doing things like this. If the cleaning is not working so good yet, offer to make her dinner at her place. Learn what you are doing first of course! But do EVERYTHING from the planning to the shopping to the cooking to the clean up! Having a guy cook dinner AND clean the kitchen is a major turn on for a lot of women! And it is nowhere near as controversial as having you vacuum and dust her place early on. In fact, this may be the better choice to start out with...
Some woman will give you subtle clues
that they are really suppressed tigresses who would LOVE to have a sexy
man treat them like Empresses and pamper them and show utter devotion to them. You
will have to listen carefully to hear these clues from some women and from others
it will be LOUD AND CLEAR!: "You clean my house. You buy me gifts. You listen to me like I was an oracle. I'm NOT letting you get away! Now go buy me a big diamond I am MARRYING YOU AND SOON!"
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Romance Is Basically About Submitting To Her And Revering Her As Your Superior
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Most women like to hear that they
are beautiful and sexy. So do most men. Most women ALSO like to hear that they
are smart and strong! Tell her if you think that she is smart. Tell her that
you love her strength of character. This is a BIT of flattery but it’s not a
lie. Not if she shows any signs of these positive characteristics. It is
bolstering her confidence in areas that she already feels she is special. Everyone loves to hear that others especially
their beloved think that they are special in the things that they themselves
think that they are special in!
She may not have total confidence
that she is what she wants to be yet, but if she is moving in that direction
and if you believe in her tell her. Tell her that you respect her and think she
is STRONG, or BRAVE, or SMART, or any of a number of positive character traits
that she feels proud of already! She will LOVE you for it, trust me!
Now there will be ‘fits and starts’
to this type of relationship. You will go full bore at first, and you may grow
tired of ALL THE BORING HOUSEWORK! That is understandable. Do your best. Also
work in other items from her ‘WANT’ list.
Refer back to an earlier article I
did on the 5 languages of love. Doing chores for her is telling her that you
love her by performing ‘Acts of Service’ for her. People also enjoy to varying
degrees ‘Physical Touch’, ‘Words of Appreciation’ (I just touched on that,
‘Receiving Gifts’, and ‘Spending Quality Time’ together. Each of us appreciates
all five of these in varying degree.
If you don’t know what she likes
best, try a little of each and see how she reacts. Buy her an unexpected gift.
Something small will be fine to start. Take her out and spend 90 to 120 minutes
together alone in a booth at a nice restaurant just talking and enjoying each
other. I think we know what ‘touch’ is (and it is not the octopus treatment) and I just talked about ‘Words of
Appreciation’, so try ‘em all over a few days and see what you get.
Back on point, you WILL have good
days and bad days going forward on this plan as I did. If your change of
attitude is too sudden, she is going to get suspicious. “Is this all some kind
of game with you? I don’t know if you love me or are living out some kind of
fantasy here.” Boy that’s a tough one and you want to avoid it if you can.
DON’T CREEP HER OUT! But even if you do some, it can still be OK.
And if your change of attitude is too sudden, she probably has good reason to be suspicious. A day and night change of attitude may only last a short time and flip or slide back quickly. But a gradual "organic" shift in your attitude will probably be easier for her to accept and give her more confidence that you really mean it.
We had a couple of suspicious "incidents" in the first few months. I had gone too far and she reined me in pretty hard. My
solution was to tell her that it WAS her that I loved and that I had done
everything I could to make our marriage better. Maybe I had failed. Then I
asked her: “Is this too much for you? Do you want me to go back to the way it
used to be?”
I think I asked that question maybe three
times. The answer was always immediate and unequivocal “DON’T YOU DARE!” then
we would usually patch things up quickly and after some quick make up
lovey-dovey time (ALWAYS involving earnest male apologies for being the cause of the misunderstanding or not having been 'more supportive' earlier), I was back folding
the laundry with a song in my heart or sweeping the floor and Her Majesty was
RIGHT BACK UP on HER THRONE again where she belonged.
It was obvious to both of us that this was the right way to go because even though she had her suspicions, she LOVED the new level of service, attention, and respect that she was getting. So as long as I didn't totally 'Go Nuts' we were on our way to 'Domestic Matriarchal Bliss'.
The next phase should be going on
all the time anyway and should be co-equal with the rest of it. SHE COMES
FIRST! In all things your WOMAN is primary in your life. She is your first
thought, and making her happy and content is your highest goal in life. When
she feels safe, loved, and adored she feels GOOD and all is right in the
world!
Sexual relations fall RIGHT into
that category as well. Your bedroom time is to be spent PLEASING HER! Did I
even need to say that?
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I came a little late to the whole
male chastity thing, but I am becoming a real believer in it. I don’t ‘play
with her toys’ any more. My releases happen when she decides they should
happen. I have never had a discussion with her about this. I do not wear any
kind of a lock up device but I ‘save myself’ for her.
I enjoy ‘suffering’ for her in this
fashion and I am accountable only to myself but I know that she is MUCH more
pleased with my personal behavior 24 hours a day when I have had no release for
a long time. When I have been chaste for weeks she has even called me: ‘My lovey
dovey hubby’ because I am SO devoted and overwhelmed with a desire NOT SO MUCH
FOR RELEASE, but just to please and serve her. I hug and kiss her more. She just enjoys it and
has a confident “I must really BE the bomb!” smile on her face often now.
We have gotten to the point where we
make love when, where, and how she likes it and that is all! I never beg or whine
or complain but I am ALWAYS ready for her when she wants me. Just the other day
she apologized for having felt sick to her stomach the night before and not
... well ... you know. I replied that it was perfectly fine! I am here for you, and I
am happy to wait if that is what you want, and I also keep myself totally ready
for you for whenever you want me!
Never having had any discussion on
male chastity, I think she immediately understood and the smile she beamed back
at me could have lit up the room. It was as if she had just won the lottery and
she was thinking “He really DOES adore and revere me! Not only does he do all the chores around here, but I get whatever sex I want
whenever I want it and as much of it as I want! He doesn't pester me for himself. He just waits patiently for me to want him and then he just PROVIDES for me! I AM HAVING THE BEST SEX OF MY LIFE!!!
AND THIS IS AWESOME!!!!”
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| Make Your ENTIRE LIFE About Pleasing Her And You Too May Begin To Live The Life You Have Always Dreamed About!! |
So if you are living a life of sexual submission fantasies, acknowledge them. Understand that they are a glowing sign post for what you really want. In your heart you YEARN to serve and please a woman and totally belong to her.
Start your journey to joy. Take the steps necessary to attract and please a woman. Serve her. Serve her in real ways. Begging to be spanked and forced to lick her boots clean is not what I am talking about, but cleaning up the kitchen before she gets home, doing her laundry, and polishing all of her boots and shoes is.
Relieve her of the drudgery in life and elevate her to the throne she was born to rule from.
If you want to be married to a goddess, start worshiping the woman you are already married to!
